In the wells of Silence....

This, simple song, completely interprets today's world. I hope it touches your soul, as it has mine.

There are so many ways to keep in touch with each other today. Texting, Facebook, twitter, emails, skyping, snapchat, and much more.  In that same moment, we are more alone than ever before.

We are left feeling alone and becoming quite accustomed to it. We are dealing with a depth of fakeness that is easily masked within the technological world.  We are losing touch with the reality of people.

We can feel that we are wandering through this life alone. It is becoming so dark that it is not a surprise to read the headlines anymore:

"An officer was slashed in the head and another one was slashed in the arm before one officer was able to fatally shoot the attacker." Queens, NY--03/19/207

"Florida teens accused of planning school shooting-01/27/2017"


Through these acts of violence, our lives have become meaningless. Completely Meaningless.

Human life. Your Life. Police officers are being attacked by the same people they vowed to serve and protect.

Children. Yours and Mine, are attacking one another.

We are more concerned with how much we are paying for healthcare and equal rights for all, than we are actually for one another.  We are Alone.

Abortions--266,001 01/01/2017-03/30/2017

Suicide--10,419 01/01/2017-03/30/2017

276,420 lives in 3 months time, gone. (Real time death stats)

When we do rally together for a cause, it only divides us further apart. Forcing us to take sides instead of coming together for a solution. No one is willing to swallow their own pride and give in for another human being. For the greater good of all mankind.

We respond to the neon lights and keep our heads down, blind to everything around us. Keeping to ourselves even more. Do not tell me, who, how, or what to believe in or do. I look out for me and my own.

"And the people bowed and prayed
To the neon God they made. "

And there are those like you 'n me, but we feel that we are alone.

"Fools said I, you do not know
Silence like a cancer grows.
Hear my words that I might teach you,
Take my arms that I might reach you.
But my words like silent raindrops fell,
And echoed
In the wells of silence"

Until next time,
~It is what it is~



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How far will you go?

"You have to find your way in this life
or the way of this life
will find you."

I saw the movie Moana the other night. I have also seen Brave, Tangled, The Bee Movie, Toy Story (all 3 of them) Zootopia, and countless other animated movies geared for Kids and Kids of all ages.

They all have a common theme. A theme that speaks of life and how we need not to be afraid of what our life has in store for us. How that we are not who we are meant to be until we overcome any and all obstacles. Mostly the obstacles are created by ourselves.

Oh it is easy to forget the reasons for our own unhappiness is indeed our fault to begin with. We allow our fears to become reasons for not being all we can be in life.

"I couldn't possibly start a new career at this age."

"There is never enough time for me."

"I don't like to fly."

"I don't think I could do that."

"Too much has happened."


The sad thing is, we believe the reasons we cannot go for what we truly want in life, because we can't except the fact the we changed or are afraid of the unknown.

We become comfortable in the life we do make for ourselves. At the time we made our choices, we did not truly listen or they were the choices we made at the time because they were right at that time.

If you are lacking something, know you are just going through the motions, then there is something your not doing. Why?

For every reason you can think of, life will continue to show you that there are many more reasons why you should go for it.

The bravest person I know, is the person who followed their passion in life. Doors always open and things fall into place when you start to listen to that voice.

You will continue to struggle within yourself until you do what you are meant to do. What calls you or what you are drawn to, will never stop.


Life has a way of showing us what we need to change to make it happen.


I heard two really good pieces of advice:

"Life can save even the darkest souls. &

Only you control the outcome of your fate."

Your Welcome.


Until next time,
~It is what it is~


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A Beautiful world is what we choose to see.....

It was one of those unplanned conversations. Beauty.

Who gets to decide who is beautiful? How is beauty defined?

Is it solely based on one's physical attributes?  If so, does that make one shallow?

Is it solely based on one's personality? If so, does appearance matter at all?

Do your parents/guardians have any influence on whom you believe to be beautiful?

So many factors to consider.

We didn't really come up with an answer we all agreed on but we did realize two things, we all have a type and it is mostly based on personality.

One said that they were surprised that they dated a certain person. They had just started talking and hit it off.

So the question was asked, "Is it the spark/chemistry that brings you together and the looks just get you to meet?"

One said they met their wife by accident. She fell right in front of him, he helped her up and that was that. She is beautiful to him. Married with many kids 10 years and still going strong.

One said that their men had to have beards or they didn't find them to be attractive at all.

One said beauty wasn't a factor at all. What mattered was if they were nice.

One stated, "that I am not the ugliest nor the most beautiful although, what I have to offer more than makes up for my looks. Yet, I find a person's eyes to attract me to them first."

We all decided that it is personal and specific to each person. As it should be.  We should not be concerned of what others think and be open to everyone we meet.

Personally, I tend to be drawn to a certain, "type" but ultimately, to me, what makes a person beautiful, is how they treat others.

I know my little corner of the world is filled with beautiful people. 

After all, it has been set by my standards, and that is what matters to me.

How do you define beauty?



Until next time,
~It is what it is~


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The best medicine in life is free......

Some of life's best moments are the unpredictable ones. Those unexpected, couldn't plan it if I tried, moments.  They make some of the best memories, ever!!!

I have a bad chest cold.  When I laugh, I start out with a wheeze, that turns into a rattle, and ends up sounding like a dying seal. Seriously. One of the manager's that I work with, was showing me how to run a program.  I started laughing and tried to talk, my voice came out like a dying seal, which made us laugh even harder and then before we knew it, we couldn't look at each other without laughing all over again. I had to get up and leave the room to catch my breath.

It got me thinking about the unexpected moment. Those, you had to be there, moments to understand. I have experienced a few of them. I can remember just breaking out into odd dance moves at work, yelling "Hi" across the room several times throughout the day, being the only one in a group of people walking only to suddenly trip and ungracefully fall, and a few others come to mind.

Repeating them, they lose theirmeaning unless you were there to share in the moment.

What about you? Do you have any of those kind of  moments to recall? Do you still giggle as you think about them?

If you don't, why? Have you been too busy trying to make a life and living up to responsibilities to actually enjoy life?

When was the last time to had a deep belly uncontrollable laugh?  If you can't remember, then you not living life as you should.

And it is time you do so.

Laughter does not cost you a thing, except moments filled with joy.

And that is why they say, "The best medicine in life is free."


Until next time,
~It is what it is~


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The true meaning of 42......

Anything you want it to be?

Some us could think of a few reasons why our life can't just be anything we want it to be.

A simple statement can be so daunting for some us.

Sophie can think of the best reason for her life not being, "Anything she wants it to be."

Sophie changed after her relationship ended with Liam. You know the story, boy meets girl, they fall in love, but instead of happily ever after, there was no "after" for her.  The after she got was filled with pain from heartbreak, doubt of herself, and fear of what she knew to be true was in fact wrong for her. Leaving her with not knowing who or what to believe.

Time moved on, she healed, or so she thought until she met another man, Ethan. Ethan had expressed that he wanted to be more than friends with Sophie. He was standing there pouring out his heart to her and all she could do was stand there, saying not what her heart wanted to, but rather held back the words her heart needed to say. In that moment, Sophie realized that she was not healed.  Sophie's Anything she wants it to be, will have to wait yet again. 

We can all relate. Doesn't have to be love.  It can be anything that changed us, hurt us, challenged us in how well we know the real us. We can allow life to make us forget who we are.

Life has experiences that we all need to shape us. Sometimes what we believed about ourselves is real and true.  We only have doubt when something happens to us and we didn't expect the outcome.  Just maybe, they happen to us, to make us stronger in our convictions or beliefs.  They happen to show us what our weakness' are or an area we need to grow in.  They show us what we believed to be true for us, was in fact not really meant for us.

Do not live in the past experiences that brought you pain, rather use your past experiences to allow yourself to grow into your Life of....

 Anything you want it to be!

Until next time,

~It is what it is~

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We are an endangered species....

Square peg living in a round world? 

Just want to mind your own business but keep getting dragged into all that drama?

Try to help but only get dumped on in the end?

Being kind only gets you used 'n abused by the ever so fake?

See the obstacle, overcome it, see the obstacle, overcome it, will it ever end?

Give your best, only to be told it is not good enough?

Give your heart freely, only to have it shattered into a million pieces?

Being real with everything, only to be rejected for your empathy?

Run away, only end up back where you started?

The Fake are so better at playing the game.

The REAL are an endangered species.

And we are becoming extinct.

Yes, the world has gone crazy.

There is no real solution here. Hearts will heal and lessons will be learned.

Realize it is not you. If your going to go down, you want to be able to go out on your own terms.

Until next time,

~It is what it is~

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Let's just hit the reset button.......

It was certainly a messed up day for me today. Started with my phone going off the grid, daughter getting sick, technical difficulties at the doctors office, going to work for a few and then just deciding to call it a day and get my haircut another day.

In the grand scheme of things, I am sure there are reasons for everything that went wrong today, but I definitely changed my hair appointment though!!! I can handle a lot but today was not going to be the day for me to go to the hairdressers.

I shared my frustrating day earlier on ~It is what it is~ FB page. Staying positive, some days, can be impossible. We are all human and can have wicked messed up days.

I have let that part of the day go. I came home and took a nap, on the couch, with my daughter. Yes, I am an adult and took a nap.  Some days just call for a reset button.

We awakened fresh. My daughter started feeling better and I certainly did. My daughter, one of my sons and I ended up playing the game HeadBanz.  That always makes us laugh!! My phone, well, if you do not get a response from a text you have sent, just resend it. I feel better but I am not going to deal with Sprint this evening.

Do not be afraid to reset your day. A nap, work-out, vent it out, have some kind of fun, or whateva you need to do to reset your day, do it.  It will make a world of difference.

I am now going to chill out with Ben 'n Jerry and catch up on my favorite show.

Tomorrow is another day.

Until next time,
~It is what it is~


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You Ain't Coming Along.............

LIFE. CAREERS. LOVERS. FAMILY. HEARTS. FEELINGS. EMOTIONS.

It can just be all too much sometimes!!!

Some days you just want a break from all of it.  ALL OF IT.

I say, Go. Leave it ALL behind. Go.

Yes, you read that right. I am saying GO when it gets to be too much.

Take a break from the relationship. Take a vacation from the job.

Stop being responsible. Stop, just Go, and be by yourself for a bit.

GO, and do not think about anything.

What will walking away from it all, do for us?

It can bring us clarity.

Do not get me wrong, we all have responsibilities that we have to take care of. No way around it. That is just being an adult. I am talking about when we are too busy doing for everyone else and never ourselves. I am talking about always choosing to do the right thing. Putting others ahead of ourselves each and every time. Trying to hold back what we do not want to deal with.  All of it is exhausting.

Take a break from it all. Go sit on a beach. Take a hike. Go visit someone you haven't seen in ages and know you can just be without explanation. Take a legit break.

When you come back to the responsibilities of your life, you will come back feeling on top of the world. You will know what is truly important to you.

You will have a better understanding of you.  It is OKAY to put yourself first.

So, what is stopping you, from being a better YOU?




Until next time,
~It is what it is~



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SERENITY NOW!!!!!!!!

Premise: Seinfeld episode about Jerry learning how to express his feelings, Frank starting a home based computer sales business, Kramer putting a screen door on his (indoor) apartment door, everyone screaming the words, "Serenity Now" and you have quite the 30 minute comedy!!!

What about real life? Can it be that easy? Just shout out the words Serenity Now!! And poof all of our stress is gone!

There are going to be times that we do not like ourselves or others.

Times we do not like our jobs or careers.

Times we do not like our homes or the state we live in.

Times we choose to listen to the haters and ignore the believers.

Times when we just feel off our game for no reason.

A reason that we care not to discuss with anyone.

Leaving us to become Ms./Mr. Cranky Pants and Snarky.

We can't blame it on anyone or anything but ourselves.

We can hope it is just a phase or a cranky moment.

We could try the "Serenity Now" bit.

Maybe it will make us laugh long enough, at ourselves, to admit that we are just being Ms./Mr. Cranky Pants and lighten our mood.

So I challenge you to scream out, "Serenity Now" the next time your in a foul mood.

I bet you will laugh or at least have a snarky smirk on your face.

Your Welcome 😏




Until next time,
~It is what it is~



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I am a Scorpio....

John asked Mary about Zodiac signs and if she believed there was any truth to them, even an ounce?

Mary stated that she believed that we have some connection to the sun, stars, moon and ocean. But does not believe that the Zodiac describes a person to a T or is it to be used as tool to predict ones life.

Why is it that animals can sense a big storm coming? Why do people act odd during a full moon?  Why does the ocean have a calming affect for some and mountains bring peace to others?

Mary believes that we are all connected to earth as we are to each other. Some believe that God created everything giving us the connection to one another. The same belief holds true if you believe in the theory of evolution.  Giving us the connection coming from the same place.

John believes a bit more of the Zodiac. The defining of elements of each sign is the reason certain people find peace at the ocean and others in the mountains. That people are meant to cross paths to accomplish something for each other. That being said, he also believes that the Zodiac can describe a person's personality but maybe not their future.

John believes that we are meant to be something to each other. To be a lesson or a happy ending.

Mary thought about this. Have you ever thought about this? Ever had a bad relationship but learned something in the end? Meet someone, who you would never imagine being friends with, but they end up helping you in ways that you have never imagined. Meet someone who changes your world so much so, that you see yourself in new ways, become better just by knowing them? Simply put, have you ever been drawn to someone?

Mary and John believe that we are given options to better ourselves throughout our lifetime, because we all come from the same beginning. 

Our lives have meaning and we are set to accomplish something along this journey called life.

It is up to us to be open to what each person brings to us.  We cannot allow fear, and the need to control our own life, to stop us from truly living the life we are meant to live.

Maybe our Zodiac sign is meant to give us an understanding of who we are by knowing what we came from.

I realized something about the Zodiac after talking with Mary and John.

Regardless of what I believe about the Zodiac itself, it is made up of Earth, Fire, Water and Air.

I know I need all those elements in order to survive, we all do.

And that has to mean something.


Until next time,
~It is what it is~


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Spotlight or not..I am good either way...

Sums it up, doesn't? At some point in our lives, we all want to be chosen over everyone else, don't we?

Oh, we can try to deny it but there it is, in ever so black n white.

It starts when we are kids. We want to be picked first (over everyone) for a game or a task. Line leader in class, teachers helper. Yep, we stand there going please pick me first, please do not let me be last!!!

When we are teens, we want to be the one asked to the dance or some function by the most popular guy/gal, or to be part of the "in" crowd, leaving us to be among the chosen few.

As adults, we strive to excel in our careers and family. To provide the best for those we love and be the best we can be. Once again, being part of the elite.

What happens to those of us that could care less about competing with anyone else or to be one of the chosen few?

Do we still have the same desire to be wanted and chosen over everyone and anything else?

Yes, we still do. Just not in the same way.

We may not need the spotlight that goes with being chosen first or being the most popular.  We don't even have to be the first person who gets called.

What we want is to be the one who gets the full unabridged version of the story or the one who proudly sits on the side lines watching you succeed.

It is not always about being in the spotlight or being picked first.

The need to be chosen first or for support, is really the same need. It makes us feel proud of an accomplishment. It does not matter if it is for ourselves or someone else.

We each have a need that needs to be fulfilled.

We all want to be chosen.

What we are chosen to do, is who we are.

Take pride in that. Embrace your ability to shine in the spotlight or being the one behind the scenes, it is same.

There's no shame in either one.

The true accomplishment is being fulfilled with knowing who we are and staying true to that.



Until next time,
~It is what it is~





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