We are an endangered species....

Square peg living in a round world? 

Just want to mind your own business but keep getting dragged into all that drama?

Try to help but only get dumped on in the end?

Being kind only gets you used 'n abused by the ever so fake?

See the obstacle, overcome it, see the obstacle, overcome it, will it ever end?

Give your best, only to be told it is not good enough?

Give your heart freely, only to have it shattered into a million pieces?

Being real with everything, only to be rejected for your empathy?

Run away, only end up back where you started?

The Fake are so better at playing the game.

The REAL are an endangered species.

And we are becoming extinct.

Yes, the world has gone crazy.

There is no real solution here. Hearts will heal and lessons will be learned.

Realize it is not you. If your going to go down, you want to be able to go out on your own terms.

Until next time,

~It is what it is~

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Let's just hit the reset button.......

It was certainly a messed up day for me today. Started with my phone going off the grid, daughter getting sick, technical difficulties at the doctors office, going to work for a few and then just deciding to call it a day and get my haircut another day.

In the grand scheme of things, I am sure there are reasons for everything that went wrong today, but I definitely changed my hair appointment though!!! I can handle a lot but today was not going to be the day for me to go to the hairdressers.

I shared my frustrating day earlier on ~It is what it is~ FB page. Staying positive, some days, can be impossible. We are all human and can have wicked messed up days.

I have let that part of the day go. I came home and took a nap, on the couch, with my daughter. Yes, I am an adult and took a nap.  Some days just call for a reset button.

We awakened fresh. My daughter started feeling better and I certainly did. My daughter, one of my sons and I ended up playing the game HeadBanz.  That always makes us laugh!! My phone, well, if you do not get a response from a text you have sent, just resend it. I feel better but I am not going to deal with Sprint this evening.

Do not be afraid to reset your day. A nap, work-out, vent it out, have some kind of fun, or whateva you need to do to reset your day, do it.  It will make a world of difference.

I am now going to chill out with Ben 'n Jerry and catch up on my favorite show.

Tomorrow is another day.

Until next time,
~It is what it is~


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You Ain't Coming Along.............

LIFE. CAREERS. LOVERS. FAMILY. HEARTS. FEELINGS. EMOTIONS.

It can just be all too much sometimes!!!

Some days you just want a break from all of it.  ALL OF IT.

I say, Go. Leave it ALL behind. Go.

Yes, you read that right. I am saying GO when it gets to be too much.

Take a break from the relationship. Take a vacation from the job.

Stop being responsible. Stop, just Go, and be by yourself for a bit.

GO, and do not think about anything.

What will walking away from it all, do for us?

It can bring us clarity.

Do not get me wrong, we all have responsibilities that we have to take care of. No way around it. That is just being an adult. I am talking about when we are too busy doing for everyone else and never ourselves. I am talking about always choosing to do the right thing. Putting others ahead of ourselves each and every time. Trying to hold back what we do not want to deal with.  All of it is exhausting.

Take a break from it all. Go sit on a beach. Take a hike. Go visit someone you haven't seen in ages and know you can just be without explanation. Take a legit break.

When you come back to the responsibilities of your life, you will come back feeling on top of the world. You will know what is truly important to you.

You will have a better understanding of you.  It is OKAY to put yourself first.

So, what is stopping you, from being a better YOU?




Until next time,
~It is what it is~



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SERENITY NOW!!!!!!!!

Premise: Seinfeld episode about Jerry learning how to express his feelings, Frank starting a home based computer sales business, Kramer putting a screen door on his (indoor) apartment door, everyone screaming the words, "Serenity Now" and you have quite the 30 minute comedy!!!

What about real life? Can it be that easy? Just shout out the words Serenity Now!! And poof all of our stress is gone!

There are going to be times that we do not like ourselves or others.

Times we do not like our jobs or careers.

Times we do not like our homes or the state we live in.

Times we choose to listen to the haters and ignore the believers.

Times when we just feel off our game for no reason.

A reason that we care not to discuss with anyone.

Leaving us to become Ms./Mr. Cranky Pants and Snarky.

We can't blame it on anyone or anything but ourselves.

We can hope it is just a phase or a cranky moment.

We could try the "Serenity Now" bit.

Maybe it will make us laugh long enough, at ourselves, to admit that we are just being Ms./Mr. Cranky Pants and lighten our mood.

So I challenge you to scream out, "Serenity Now" the next time your in a foul mood.

I bet you will laugh or at least have a snarky smirk on your face.

Your Welcome 😏




Until next time,
~It is what it is~



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I am a Scorpio....

John asked Mary about Zodiac signs and if she believed there was any truth to them, even an ounce?

Mary stated that she believed that we have some connection to the sun, stars, moon and ocean. But does not believe that the Zodiac describes a person to a T or is it to be used as tool to predict ones life.

Why is it that animals can sense a big storm coming? Why do people act odd during a full moon?  Why does the ocean have a calming affect for some and mountains bring peace to others?

Mary believes that we are all connected to earth as we are to each other. Some believe that God created everything giving us the connection to one another. The same belief holds true if you believe in the theory of evolution.  Giving us the connection coming from the same place.

John believes a bit more of the Zodiac. The defining of elements of each sign is the reason certain people find peace at the ocean and others in the mountains. That people are meant to cross paths to accomplish something for each other. That being said, he also believes that the Zodiac can describe a person's personality but maybe not their future.

John believes that we are meant to be something to each other. To be a lesson or a happy ending.

Mary thought about this. Have you ever thought about this? Ever had a bad relationship but learned something in the end? Meet someone, who you would never imagine being friends with, but they end up helping you in ways that you have never imagined. Meet someone who changes your world so much so, that you see yourself in new ways, become better just by knowing them? Simply put, have you ever been drawn to someone?

Mary and John believe that we are given options to better ourselves throughout our lifetime, because we all come from the same beginning. 

Our lives have meaning and we are set to accomplish something along this journey called life.

It is up to us to be open to what each person brings to us.  We cannot allow fear, and the need to control our own life, to stop us from truly living the life we are meant to live.

Maybe our Zodiac sign is meant to give us an understanding of who we are by knowing what we came from.

I realized something about the Zodiac after talking with Mary and John.

Regardless of what I believe about the Zodiac itself, it is made up of Earth, Fire, Water and Air.

I know I need all those elements in order to survive, we all do.

And that has to mean something.


Until next time,
~It is what it is~


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Spotlight or not..I am good either way...

Sums it up, doesn't? At some point in our lives, we all want to be chosen over everyone else, don't we?

Oh, we can try to deny it but there it is, in ever so black n white.

It starts when we are kids. We want to be picked first (over everyone) for a game or a task. Line leader in class, teachers helper. Yep, we stand there going please pick me first, please do not let me be last!!!

When we are teens, we want to be the one asked to the dance or some function by the most popular guy/gal, or to be part of the "in" crowd, leaving us to be among the chosen few.

As adults, we strive to excel in our careers and family. To provide the best for those we love and be the best we can be. Once again, being part of the elite.

What happens to those of us that could care less about competing with anyone else or to be one of the chosen few?

Do we still have the same desire to be wanted and chosen over everyone and anything else?

Yes, we still do. Just not in the same way.

We may not need the spotlight that goes with being chosen first or being the most popular.  We don't even have to be the first person who gets called.

What we want is to be the one who gets the full unabridged version of the story or the one who proudly sits on the side lines watching you succeed.

It is not always about being in the spotlight or being picked first.

The need to be chosen first or for support, is really the same need. It makes us feel proud of an accomplishment. It does not matter if it is for ourselves or someone else.

We each have a need that needs to be fulfilled.

We all want to be chosen.

What we are chosen to do, is who we are.

Take pride in that. Embrace your ability to shine in the spotlight or being the one behind the scenes, it is same.

There's no shame in either one.

The true accomplishment is being fulfilled with knowing who we are and staying true to that.



Until next time,
~It is what it is~





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It is YOU and it will always be YOU.......

The mind is a very powerful thing.

It can give you all the courage you need to be everything that you can imagine becoming.

It can take away that same courage and have you believing that you can't be anything at all.

Yes, the mind is that powerful.

You can choose to believe that You hold your own destiny and power within you or choose to believe that you don't.  It really is up to you and only you.

Look at your life now, everything in it is a direct result of how you think of yourself and what you think you deserve in life. It is easy to become dependent upon the adoration and accolades of others to boost our own self-image and confidence. But, it is really what we believe in our self, that will carry us through everything and all that our life brings to us. What you have accepted your life to be.  Who you have accepted to become.

Honesty is the best gift you could possibly give yourself. Tough pill to swallow but sometimes it is needed in order to keep moving forward. Nobody likes to think of themselves as being less than perfect, but a reality check once in awhile can go along way.

We are meant to change and evolve with life.

We are meant to do certain things until that changes and we do other things.

We are meant to be with certain people in our life. Some come n go, while others remain.

Our opinion of ourselves needs to remain positive and strong, always.

It is really the only one of true value.

It is the one that can make us or break us.......

Until next time,

~It is what it is~

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