I interrupt your morning.......

Due to age and health issues, I am that person who has to watch what I eat and has to exercise, to maintain a reasonable healthy body mass for me.

The two things on this list, that I consider to be rather devastating are, CHOCOLATE and BREAD. I love dark chocolate and bread.

Why are the things we love, so, so, so bad for us??!!! My body could not survive on chocolate or bread alone. Could it???

I get the whole being healthy is best for us.

I think there is way too much emphasis put on what we look like and what our size is to be considered healthy.

Like who asked the world to but in my personal life??

People praise you when you loose weight. But when you are overweight (btw, the government decided this a long time ago, the government) you get that "voice" of sympathy, but you have a pretty face or your personality doesn't match your body image. More blah blah.

So, yes, when I see things like this, it just totally pisses me off. Even Weight Watchers allows you to eat these things.

Do what you need to be healthy for you. No one gets to put pressure on you about what You should look like. Not. A. One.

I will not lecture you on what size you need to be. You get to decide what makes you happy.

But please do not deprive yourself on what you love. Find your balance between food and exercise that puts you feeling energetic, happy, and at peace when you look in the mirror.

Now, if you don't mind, I am going back to scrolling facebook, drinking coffee, and eating some, dark chocolate covered almonds.


Until Next Time,
~It is what it is~

Clockwise....

Lessons need to be learned. It sucks.

Be honest with yourself! I get it. I really do
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It is hard to admit when something doesn't work out they way we thought or envisioned. We have to take a hard look and admit that this is not working out because of me.

That's right. Take the blame. Once you accept that, you are where you should not be, that is when your life starts to fall into place.

You can be right but in the wrong place. It will never work. It is NOT them or the place, it is you.

Not everyone belongs where they think they do.

You're not wrong. You are just in the wrong place.

So, reset your clock and start going in the right direction.


Until next time,
~It is what it is~

Be Badass......

We all have ideas of what we want to be when we grow up.  Teacher, Nurse, Doctor, Lawyer, Garbage Collector, Mechanic, Husband, Wife, Mom and etc. Sometimes, when we have to pick a career or what life we want, we are at a loss or go for the one with the most money.

I believe that we all have a purpose. A specific role to fill. Each just as important as another. We all need various types of careers in this world to make it run. Not one job is more important than another. 

Not. A. One. 

We need to listen to our Soul, Conscience, Gut, or whatever you believe it to be for you. That “Knowing” you get when you choose the right thing for you. I think when we find what our passion is and go with that, we become Badass.  

Think about it. We have a purpose. We know when we are doing what we are meant to do. “Things” just fall into place. Doors open. Doors Close. We get sent in the direction we are supposed to go. It is up to us to recognize it and follow it.

As a kid, no problem. As an adult, well, we tend to think We know everything about everything.  The adult, in us, realizes that the real world is a lot harder to make a living that we are passionate about.

Forget what we know. Take time to think about what we want. What we are willing to accept and not. We may have to do things we may not like, to get what we want. Be open to all the possibilities. Connect with our souls. Find out who we are really meant to be. Meditate, seek advice from someone who will tell you the truth(good and Bad), accept what your flaws are and develop them into strengths.

You can always tell the ones that are following their passion and purpose in life.

They are the ones that look like a,

True. Real. Badass.

Until Next Time,

~It is what it is~

I need a Playdate, Please..........

I went to Target today, to grab a few things that I needed. I took the time to look around. I found four emojicon stuffies on clearance. Score! We all loved the movie. I have four kids, perfect! I get the rest of my things and off I go. Kids liked them.

After dinner I see them on the couch and start playing with Jailbreak, High Five, and Poop. Yes. I said playing. Voices and all. I am in my own world having fun. One of my son's said to me, "Mom, stop, Please." Another son said, "Mom, give me my poop back, please. Now." That son didn't' even laugh at what he said!! Seriously?!!

In my defense, I might have been teasing him with Jailbreak, but I can't exactly remember because I was so disappointed that I had to stop playing. I mean, c'mon. I was makin jokes, being silly, and having fun. In that moment, when I was asked to stop, it was like I was the kid and my kids were acting like the parent.

I got over it. I also realized that, in the time that I was "playing", I was having fun. Something that I do not get to do often with my kids anymore. We used to play all the time. It seems like it was yesterday. We had hot wheels tracks set up all over the house. Mr. Potato Head's at the ready, Lego's, and so much more. I do play with my kids now but it is not the same as when they were little.

My oldest will be 21 in a few days. He is into video games, that I am not into. He has friends and a job now. As does the 19yrd old. I still have two other teens that do not have jobs but they have interests and friends.  We do all get together and play a board game once in awhile but it seems less and less these days.

I MISS PRETEND PLAYING!!!! LOL Maybe it is just me but it was FUN.

Why don't adults play like they did when they were kids? Why?

I think we should have Adult Kid Themed Playdates. Just think how much fun it would be to play as a kid now?? Play-Doh, hide n seek, hot wheels cars, and The Nerf Wars would be legendary!!!

I know they have adult coloring books and places where you can drink and play cards or board games now.

Society is definitely going in the right direction with this idea.

We need to keep going though. We need to keep having playdates as we grow into adulthood.

And,
Nap times.
And,
Snack times too.



Until Next time,
~It is what it is~

#UnitedWeStand

#takeaknee

It started by a person wanting to bring light to an issue. 

I had to ask myself, if by kneeling to a Flag that represents the country in which I live, would it make a difference?

I googled, "What changes have been made with #takeaknee"

I believe it has. It has created division among Americans.

One person decided not to stand up and pledge his allegiance to the Flag of His Country, in which He lives and works in.

I am not sure what he is doing, other than kneeling, to make a change. I don't even know why he thought kneeling, on the job, would be a good idea in the first place. He had to of known the Media would go crazy with it. He must of known it would have some negative impact. I still do not know how this protest will change the way people are being treated off the NFL field.

What I do know is, that by this man kneeling, it has only caused more division. It has changed the American game of football.

An American pastime, that most of us played in our yards as kids, that the majority of Americans love to watch. Now has unneeded attention, that has catapulted into a political hot mess! The question being asked is, "Do you side with the kneel or standing?"

We are a Country in need of Peace not more division. This is not bringing Americans together. This is not bringing Police Officer's and American's together.

We all need to take these words more seriously and as they were meant to be heard.

" I pledge allegiance to the Flag of the United States of America, and to the Republic for which it stands, one Nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all."

#UnitedWeStand


Until Next Time,
~It is what it is~

My answer is, Yes, I believe so......

A couple close to me, who I have known a wicked long time, bought a second home in New England.

They spent some time in this house fixing it up. The purpose, to rent it out as a vacation home. One evening, the wife, was in the living room and saw an old lady floating about in the corner of the room. She also had a problem with the TV.  Staying calm, she went about her evening.

Fast forward to their daughter's visit with their grandchildren. The youngest child asked her mom who the old lady was? She told her mom that she said hi to her and she said hi back.

Current year. They rented out their house for the summer to a couple with kids. They recently received a phone call from the renters... Yes, they called to them know that their kids have been seeing a ghost. An old lady.

I remember the wife telling me about seeing the ghost. I accepted it. We talked about it and moved on.

We both believe that our lives do not end with our death but it was a theory or a belief that there is more to this world we live in.

I was telling my kids about it and I had a scary realization: I know people who have seen a ghost! It is no longer a theory or a belief, it is a fact. A Fact!!!

One of my son's said, "So, if this ghost came in peace, by causing no trouble, then that means there is a good place and that must mean there is a bad place. It is real."

I am stating facts. The Fact that more than one person saw the same ghost. A fact.

Kids are open minded because they have not experienced enough to know not to always take things as they are. We gain skepticism as we experience life. Some of those life experiences, show us that there is more to this life than we know or want to believe. But, in our own skepticism, we choose not to see the most simplest of facts.

All of this lead me to this:

If we all kept a childlike perspective, as we grew into adulthood, and just accepted the facts that life has to offer us, without doubt or skepticism, would our lives be any different?


Until next time,
~It is what it is~

See the Beauty in the Pain.....

We all have dealt with pain in our lives. Physically or emotionally, pain is pain.

I haven't met a soul who has lived a life free from pain.

We may become so accustomed to pain, that we don't know how to be without it.

"Let the bullets fly

Oh

 Let them Rain

My luck, my love, my God,

They came from

PAIN"

You may be of the few unfortunate ones who learned pain way too early in life. A lesson teaching us that nothing comes without pain.

Let it go. Yeah, I know easier said then done. The longer you hold on to it, the more it controls you. Your perspective on life will always come from a place of pain not peace.

And your saying, So? 

"I can handle it. I am strong enough. I have been through worse."

You might think that is a perfectly good response. Right? 

How about, "I know I am strong enough but that does not mean I should have to handle this alone or at all!"

When you let it go, your perspective on life changes. Pain makes you stronger not more deserving of more pain. 

"I am the one at the sail,

I'm the Master of My sea"

Yes, it is that simple. You are in control of what you want to control. Start small. Let some of it go. 

Don't let the pain control you anymore. Give it less of your energy. 

Until Next Time,

~It is what it is~