2018 is ending.........

I am sure there are a few of you that can agree to that statement.

I also realize that there is nothing we can do about it. What is done is done. No amount of wishing can change it.

So, why cry or pout about it? Let's leave the problems in the past but keep the lessons.

If I wronged you, It wasn't intentional. I was just wrapped up in my own stuff, I am sorry.

If you wronged me, lesson learned. I am over it.

If we don't talk any longer, I do wish you well. I have let it go.

I am certain 2019 will bring its fair share of problems, but I will not let it bring me down, I will let it shape me to be a better me.

Yeah, that last sentence was a bit much, even for me. Lol

I did learn. I am in a constant state of learning. We all are. So how about this instead?

We are human, we will continue to make mistakes, and we will learn from them. We may even be able to look back on the years problems and say, "I am different and realize what is worth keeping and what to let go of."

But 2019, I am tired of learning..........

Until Next Time,

~It is what it is~

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Hey there Mr. Grinch........

The Holiday's do not always bring out the warm 'n fuzzy feelings of Peace, Love, and Hope for everyone.

No, they can bring out the, Stink, Stank, and Stunk, making us a Mr. Grinch during the Holiday's.

Holiday's are times filled with family, friends, happiness, etc....

So, what happens when we do not have that happy family life? Our friends have families of their own to spend time with during the holidays. What if, we have been so broken during the year, we can't find the joy of the holiday's? What if, we are so stressed out by life, that we have become Mr. Grinch?

We all know what happened to the Grinch. He faced a cold cruel life and allowed it shrink his love towards others. So much so, that he wanted everyone to be as miserable as he was feeling.

As soon as he was shown Kindness, his feelings of cruelty simply faded away.

A simple act of kindness can change a person's life in the most amazing ways.

The next time you come across a, Mr. Grinch, show kindness instead. Reach out and make time for those in ways that you do not normally do.

We all make time for what we want when we want, this is no different.


Think about it.


Holiday's are not just about us and who we know in our world, it is about others.

Or is it so important to you that you are right, first, and get that perfect gift,

that you have become,

Mr. Grinch?

Until Next Time,
~It is what it is~


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That is enough....

You can't always save everyone.

The hardest thing is to realize that you cannot do anymore than you already have.

Sometimes, we are just the person they needed in their moment of need.

We have to accept that and move on.

We can only give what we have to give of ourselves. Once it starts to drain us, we must let go, know we did everything we could, and stop.

We don't stop caring, we just stop trying.

Life is filled with moments of meeting people who helped us become better than we were before knowing them.

We may not always be a part of them being better and that is OKAY.

It is always better to give all that we have to someone, than to look back and wish we had tried harder.

Be at peace with knowing,


that it was enough.


Until Next Time,
~It is what it is~

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Do you even know??

Gossip. Back Stabbing. Lies. Rumors.

It happens. There is not a damn thing you can do about it.

You can't stop it. You can't change it.

Let the haters, hate.

You may not even know anything about it until, you hear something accidentally or a friend tells you about it.

But when a friend tells you about it, did they defend you or chime right in?

Do you even know?

Some people enjoy misery and misery loves company.

Our friends will speak of us in our absence, it is human nature.

What they say is what matters, not what the haters have to say.



Until Next Time,
~It is what it is~


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Trust. The. Wait.

While we work on changing ourselves, we have to wait until the change is complete before becoming who we want to become.

When we wait for someone to make a decision about being in our life, we have to wait for them.

When we want something that we can't have immediately, we have to wait until we can have it.

When we are waiting for news, that will change our lives, we have to wait until we hear it.

We find our voice or we learn to quiet our sound.

Everyone always says, you are learning, trust the wait.

Waiting sucks. Period. Regardless,what it is we are waiting for, it sucks. Good or bad.

The mind needs to be distracted. The hurt needs to be healed. The excitement needs to be quieted. The practice needs to be practiced.

Sometimes, we can learn things about those who we are waiting on and ourselves.

How you act while you wait. How they treat you while you wait.

How you receive the news. How the news is delivered.

Who we want to turn to while waiting. Who is there for us while we wait.

During the wait we grow stronger.

We learn who is truly there for us.

We gain perspective.

We learn to be quiet.

We learn to scream.

We learn to heal.

We learn how to do all those things,


 we never thought we could.


Trust. The. Wait.



Until Next Time,
~It is what it is~


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Why or Why Not?

Do you ever wonder why?

Why do you live?

Why do you love?

Why do you want?

Why do you keep secrets?

Why do you hide in plain sight?

Why do you hurt?

Why do you need an answer?



Why not just love?

Why not just bare it all?

Why not feel the pain?

Why not just let it go?

Why not be free?

Why not just accept?

Why not be happy?



Too many Why's and not enough,

Why Not?

The way you answer, your why,

will allow you to grow or,

stop you altogether.

So, what's it going to be for you?

Why?

Or

Why Not?


Until Next Time,
~It is what it is~

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I LOVE CHOCOLATE......

This was my lunch today.

Yes, I said, lunch. No salad or water. Just plain old chocolate, coffee, and more chocolate.

Let me tell you something, it was delicious!!

I was out n about, running errands in the downtown part of the city, stopped at this chill spot and indulged myself.

I remembered something today. That in a health conscious society, we often guilt ourselves into making the "healthy" choice.

I will always be somewhat unhealthy.

I will always push to be the strongest and healthiest version I can be but that looks different on me, than on anyone else.

That sometimes I do get caught up in how I look.

I know that my physical appearance doesn't matter to anyone who truly loves me.

The only person who I have to answer to, is me.

If I want a slice of chocolate cake and a milk shake for lunch I will and with no guilt at all.

And you should too.



Until next time,
~It is what it is~


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